It's Time to Find a Marriage-Minded Man You Can Trust

Dating with kids, no matter their ages, can be challenging. Whether you have kids, or a man you’re interested in has them, the decision to date after divorce or after the death of a spouse can be new and unfamiliar territory. 

If you’re considering dating with kids, I want to address some common concerns in this Single Over 30 episode and give you 13 practical tips that you can put into practice right away in your relationship. These tips aren’t just based on other people’s experience. I have lived it!

This episode is solidly rooted in my personal experience of dating—and marrying—a man with five (yes, 5!) kids, and also on what I have learned from experts who know all about blended families.

I hope you are encouraged!

Your coach, 
Shana 

Maybe you’re familiar with the old Neil Sedaka song from 1966 called “Breakin’ Up is Hard to Do.” 

If you have ever gone through a breakup, you know Mr. Sedaka’s words are true. Breaking up is anything but easy. It’s not easy if you’re the one who did the breaking up, or if you were broken up with. 

Even though breaking up isn’t easy, it can work for good—and for betterment of your future relationship—when you take time to reflect on what happened. 

In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I share 16 questions to ask yourself after a breakup so that it grows you and makes you better, rather than robs from your future relationships. 

Online dating can be frustrating at times. It can make you want to swear off online dating forever. Today, I want to give you some hope and encouragement by sharing 6 online dating mistakes that women make that prevent them from meeting a great guy online. 

You want to avoid these errors so you don’t get discouraged and sabotage your online efforts.  

I hope you’re encouraged! 

You go out with a guy to dinner or for coffee. It comes time to pay and you’re conflicted. Should he pay, or should you? 

And, what if you go out with him several times? Who pays then? 

In this podcast, my husband, Clark, joins me to demystify the question, “Who should pay for the first, second, or third date?” 

And we talk about which one of us likes to eat kale. Exciting stuff! 8-) 

Who should pay on the first date?

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According to Clark, the guy should pay for the first date. You want the guy to be leading the relationship, and you want the guy to be pursuing the woman. You want to know that the guy knows how to care for a woman. Allow yourself be pampered by a man because men want to be the hero for the special woman in their lives. 

Women paying for the first date

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A woman paying for the first date emasculates the guy in a way. Certainly, don't be pressured into allowing a man to pay if...

Picture this: You’ve been connecting with a guy over text and things are going well and you’re hoping he’s going to move it to the next level by asking for a phone call, a date, or a video chat. But then. . . the whole thing just fizzles out. 

I am going to give you an awesome strategy that you can put into practice so that your conversations don’t just fall flat so you actually get the date. 

Here’s a glance at this episode:

What is “texting fizzle”?

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You've made an online connection with a guy, texting and building what feels like a good rapport over text—then the conversation fizzles out. No date. No more conversation. It just falls flat. I call this the “Texting Fizzle Effect.” 

Why do text conversations often fizzle out before singles meet? 

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To begin with, most men don’t use text the same way women do. You may have heard...

Ah dating! It can feel so discouraging at times, right? You want a relationship but it isn’t happening the way you want or when you want and maybe there are even times it feels like it may never happen. 

This can lead to a whole lot of discouragement. 

And, I get it because I didn’t marry until my late 40s even though I wanted to marry much sooner. 

Keeping the right attitude and mindset can help battle discouragement. 

So, on today’s episode, I’m going to give you 4 Mindset Shifts (or perspectives) you can adopt to stay hopeful and positive while you’re putting yourself out there. 

These are 4 Mindset Shifts to Overcome Dating Discouragement. 

Maybe you’re thinking, “Shana, there is no reason to be hopeful when your dreams aren’t coming to pass.” I get it. 

Keep this in mind: Keeping the right attitude is much better than being miserable and...

Hey there, single lady!

I often talk with women who say they're interested in a relationship, but they are afraid. They're afraid that they don't have what it takes to make a relationship work. They’re afraid they’re not ready to date . . . and they wonder if they can have a happy, healthy relationship.

If this describes you, you’re in the right place, friend, because today I am going to share questions you can ask yourself to identify your readiness to date. 

I also have a freebie I want to share with you, it’s the “Ready to Date Checklist” and it contains 30 questions to help you ask yourself if you're ready to date. And it will give you a lot of food for thought about your motivations for dating to identify what you want in your dating life going forward. 

Unfortunately, I do not have the time to cover all of those today so I'm just choosing four of those to get that freebie, head on over to...

What do you do if you can’t ever seem feel emotionally safe and confident in dating relationships or even when you are just getting to know men or a particular man? 

What do you do if you are often emotionally triggered and as a result you just shut down, quiet down, and pull away from men who might even be good guys? 

How can you feel more emotionally safe, confident—and even loved in a special relationship or while dating?  

In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I answer these questions. 

Remember, the dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! 

Your coach, 
Shana 

I often speak with many wonderful single women who tell me they don't want to waste time in their dating life.

If you can relate, I get it. 

After all, you're ready for a serious relationship that leads to commitment, so you don't want to waste time with men and in relationships that aren't going to go anywhere. That totally makes sense. 

However, I have an important question for you. . .  

Is it possible to waste time if you are adamant about not wasting time?

In this episode, I share how this can absolutely happen--and it happens all the time with the women I coach, and how it happened to me too. 

This is a definite listen if you want to purposeful in your dating and relationship life and you want to improve your opportunities to find a trustworthy, marriage-minded man. 

I hope you are encouraged by this practical episode.

Here’s a glance at this episode:

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