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The Smart Woman’s Guide to Ghosting – Part 1, I shared about how to embrace some important mindset shifts that can help you overcome the painful emotions that can result from getting ghosted, particularly while online dating.
Getting your mindset right about ghosting is very important because it can help so you don’t beat yourself up, or make promises to yourself to never date again or get online again. It can also help so you don’t shut your heart down or believe you are undesirable. So, if you haven’t checked out Part 1 of this series, I invite you to do so.
Okay, so let’s get started with 10 reasons men ghost women.
1) The trouble of emotional discomfort
The first—and #1—reason men ghost women is because they are avoiding the emotional discomfort of saying no or telling a woman they...
When you hear the word “ghosting,” does it make you want to vow to never online date again? I have five tips to share in this first part of a two-part series that I'm calling “The Smart Woman's Guide to Ghosting.”
Unfortunately, ghosting has become commonplace. Therefore, if you want to date online and you want to be purposeful about finding a trustworthy, marriage-minded man, then you need to know how to deal with it.
In this post, I want to share about how to get the right mindset about ghosting so you can think about it in liberating ways. Then, if it does happen to you, you won’t get discouraged.
My first tip is to shift your perspective about yourself by not internalizing ghosting or taking it personally. I know this can be difficult, especially if you have an anxious personality or anxious attachment style since you may tend to elevate everybody else above yourself....
[Clark] I'm going to propose to you again.
[Shana] Oh yes. That would be lovely. We've talked about how we'd like to redo our vows and redo the day. We just recently had lunch together and I asked you, “What is a happy memory that you would like to repeat?” And you said, “The day that we got married.”
[Clark] Yeah, that was a great day.
[Shana] I'm so glad that Clark—this is my husband, Clark—decided to join me because he's going to give us the inside scoop on men.
[Clark] <laugh> How long is your podcast?
[Shana] Does that mean it will be short or long?
[Clark] Probably pretty short. Men aren’t that complicated. <laugh> Women...
I once chatted with a 36-year-old man on the Internet who asked if I would like to see his requirements for a mate and marriage. “Sure‚” I typed. “Send them over.” His request was curious, but I was amused when I received his list for the perfect wife.
His criteria for marriage were included in approximately eight e-mails with three to four attachments each. He’d also written an essay describing his perfect mate. She must home school their children, be attractive, trim and of average height and weight, debt-free, never married, a virgin, she must never have had any venereal diseases and she must be able to give him “wild sex” whenever he asked. Most of all, she must be submissive.
Within minutes after reading his list, my “abusive man” detector started blinking wildly. But just to make sure that my suspicions were correct, I asked him a few questions.
I discovered that he grew up in a home with an overbearing...
Maybe you can relate. You want next year to be different. You want to find a trustworthy, marriage-minded man and you want to experience the kind of love you desire.
If this describes you, you are definitely in the right place because in this post, I’m going to share about getting in the right mindset to improve your opportunities to find a relationship.
A Little Story From My Own Life
Over the last several years, I’ve been working on improving my eating habits. I never thought I would get stuck and unhealthy dieting patterns, trying this nutrition plan or this diet and that one, but that is exactly what has happened over the last several years—and I’ve always been feeling like I’ve been blowing it and...
You meet a man. You’re excited about him. He seems excited about you, or you’re hoping that he is. Then, he drops a bomb on you: “I have commitment issues.”
What does he mean by this and how should you respond?
That’s what today’s Single Over 30 podcast episode is all about.
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In a Facebook group for men and women over 30, one of the men wrote:
Ladies, let's say that you FINALLY meet your guy. He checks all the boxes and there seems to be little imperfection about him. Your family loves him, as do your friends. It seems that he is that one very rare gem. It even so happens that he takes the knee and you say, “yes.” Yay! You are getting married.
Then he drops a bomb on you: he has bouts with pornography (or lust). But here is the deal: he knows it's wrong and he is desperately trying to quit. He is willing to do counseling and whatever else is needed.
Would you call off the engagement because of this or do you vow to walk beside him every step of the way? I mean, it's obvious he wants to stop.
In another online group, a woman asked:
Should I continue a relationship with a man who has a real problem with pornography? When we started dating, I didn’t know that he was looking at porn. Recently, we started...
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