If you’re like most of the single women I know, you’ve got some dreams for the New Year. And, even though you have it together in many areas of your life, there is one dream you’d like to see fulfilled this year: you’d like to find a man who loves you, adores you, and accepts you for you.
In my next few videos, I’m going to share 4 things you can personally do to improve your relational life.
These are things you have complete control over.
They aren’t dependent on a man being around. They aren’t dependent on how many dates you have lined up this week, whether or not you feel desirable or believe if any man would be interested in you. These are 4 things every woman can do to improve her love life.
To begin with the first change you can make to improve your love life, let me say this:
By the time you get to be a particular age, you’ve had a lot of things happen to you in your relational life, and some of those things haven’t been so great. In fact, I imagine that you might be able to say that some of them really hurt a lot.
And, in that hurt, my thought is that you probably placed judgments on those experiences. “That was really bad.” Or, “I can’t imagine anything good coming from that situation.” (I've been there!)
The problem with making judgments is that they prevent us from growing. They prevent us from learning from what happened.
So this is key in helping you move forward in your relationship life 2020: rather than looking at your difficult experiences through the lens of judgment, which can involve bitterness of heart (Believe me, I’ve been there, too!), choose to look at them through a lens of learning.
This one decision alone will change your relationship life because it places you in the seat of being a victor instead of a victim.
Choosing to see a bad relationship experience as something to learn from, rather that seeing it as something to despise, or even regret that it happened, can propel you into a greater relational future.
It puts you in the driver’s seat in your love life so rather than being a victim, you are a victor.
So here’s my question for you for 2020. . .what is it that you have experienced in your love life that has been hurtful?
What is it that you have regretted happened and thought nothing good can come from it?
Choose to ask these questions instead.
“How have I grown from what happened?”
“What tools can I take into my relational future because of what happened?”
“How can I use what happened to grow, rather than shrinking back in fear and shutting down my heart?”
“How can I learn from my negative experience so I can experience the kind of love I want?”
Okay, that’s your first tip for how you can improve your love life this year.
It’s time to lay down your judgments, and choose learning instead. I’ll be back at 'cha with the next thing you can do to improve your love life soon.
Here’s to an amazing 2020!
Grateful for you,
P.S. Check out Part 2 here: https://www.singleover30.net/blog/4-things-you-can-do-to-improve-your-love-life-in-2020-part-2
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